Timing sex correctly is critical to getting pregnant, but the best time to get pregnant may not be when you think it is! In this article, I’ll be looking at some of the myths and facts around the best time to get pregnant, and how to ensure that you get your timing right!
Let’s start with the basics
As you undoubtedly already know, in order to get pregnant, a sperm from the male partner needs to meet with an egg from the female partner so that fertilization can take place and a new life can begin. But as a species, humans aren’t particularly fertile and as a result, this pivotal event can end up being a game of chance!
While men produce sperm continuously (and are therefore able to get a woman pregnant at any time), women produce an egg only once every menstrual cycle. This means that your egg is released only once during the month or so between one period and the next. Even if two eggs are produced, as in the case of twins, the eggs are released within 24 hours of each other – not days or weeks apart.
The process of releasing an egg from one of your ovaries is known as ovulation, and not surprisingly, it’s this event that receives so much focus when it comes to trying to get pregnant.
After the egg is released at ovulation, it doesn’t hang around for long. In fact, it lives for just 12 – 24 hours. If it isn’t fertilized by a sperm within this short timeframe, it will die and be reabsorbed by the body, leaving no further chance for getting pregnant until the next menstrual cycle.
Luckily however, sperm are a bit hardier! They can survive in the female body for up to 5 days – but only in the right environmental conditions. And nature has ensured that this optimal environment for sperm survival is provided in the days just prior to ovulation. At any other time in the menstrual cycle, sperm will not survive for longer than a couple of hours and they’ll never get the opportunity to fertilize the egg.
When is the best time to get pregnant?
So what does all this mean? It means that conception is only possible by having sex in the days just prior to ovulation and on the day of ovulation itself.
These precious few days are known as the ‘Fertile Window’ and it’s during this time, and ONLY during this time, that you can get pregnant. The fertile window is a maximum of 6 days long – composed of the 5 days leading up to ovulation and the day of ovulation itself. In practice however, the fertile window is typically shorter than this – often just 2 – 3 days long.
So the best time to have sex to get pregnant is during the 2 – 3 days leading up to ovulation – the time when sperm are most likely to survive. Ideally, you want to have sperm ‘ready and waiting’ in your reproductive tract, so that they can do their thing as soon as your egg is released at ovulation.
Because the egg will only survive for an absolute maximum of 24 hours, any sex you have after ovulation day will NOT result in pregnancy. And actually, even having intercourse on the day of ovulation itself can sometimes be too late – but more on that later.
So when exactly is ovulation?
This is where it starts to get a bit tricky. The reason? There’s no single answer that’s accurate for everyone. Ovulation (and therefore the fertile window) can occur at different times for different women, and often at different times for the same woman!
So let’s start by looking at some of the myths and misinformation out there that can easily put you wrong.
Myth 1: Ovulation occurs on Day 14
Although many textbooks and websites will have you believe that ovulation always occurs on Day 14 of the menstrual cycle, this is NOT the case. In fact it’s thought that ovulation occurs on Day 14 in only 13.5% of menstrual cycles!
While ovulation certainly occurs around this time for some women, there can be enormous variation. One excellent American study (1) looked at a total of 696 menstrual cycles from a group of 213 women. In this study group, ovulation occurred as early as Day 8 of the menstrual cycle and as late as Day 60! (it’s important to be aware however, that if ovulation occurs beyond Day 25 of your menstrual cycle it’s usually due to stress or some kind of hormonal imbalance).
Myth 2: Ovulation occurs 14 days before your next period starts
You may have heard that ovulation will occur 14 days before your next period is due and that this is therefore the best time to have sex to get pregnant. However, this advice relies on the assumption that the second phase of your menstrual cycle (the luteal phase) is 14 days long, and again this is NOT always the case.
The luteal phase of the menstrual cycle is the number of days between your day of ovulation and the start of your next period. It’s often considered to be exactly 14 days long, but in reality it varies from woman to woman, and ranges between 10 and 16 days in length.
is the number of days between your day of ovulation and the start of your next period. It’s often considered to be exactly 14 days long, but in reality it varies from woman to woman, and ranges between 10 and 16 days in length.
So if you’re doing the maths to figure out when you normally ovulate, the length of your luteal phase needs to be taken into consideration. The easiest way to figure out the length of your luteal phase is by learning fertility awareness and charting your fertility. See below.
Myth 3: Ovulation occurs mid-cycle
This myth is based on the assumption that all women have a 28 day menstrual cycle and that we all ovulate on Day 14. If this were the case, ovulation would indeed be mid-cycle.
In reality however, normal menstrual cycles can vary from 21 to 35 days in length. In fact menstrual cycles of exactly 28 days in length occur just 5 – 10% of the time! And as discussed above, the day of ovulation can also vary.
So if you had a menstrual cycle length of 35 days for example and you ovulated on Day 24, the description of ovulation being ‘mid-cycle’ is hardly appropriate!
Think you know when you ovulate?
Many women feel confident that they ‘just know’ when ovulation is occurring. For some, it’s because they experience ‘mittelschmerz’ (one sided pelvic pain around the time of ovulation) or they notice other signs such as sore breasts or an increased libido. For others there is just a ‘gut sense’ that they are ovulating.
While feeling in tune with your body can help ensure you time sex correctly, it isn’t always a fail proof method. Over the years, I’ve met numerous women in my clinic who were confident they knew when they were ovulating and certain that they’d been timing sex correctly. After learning fertility awareness and charting their fertility however (see below), they discovered that in fact they weren’t ovulating when they thought they were and had missed valuable opportunities to conceive.
And research backs this up. One study found that only 12.7% of trying-to-conceive women actually estimated their day of ovulation correctly and only 27% predicted it for when they were actually most fertile!
So while this method works reliably for some, it’s easy to get wrong and unfortunately this can lead to an unnecessary delay in getting pregnant.
Best time to get pregnant – how to figure it out!
Considering all the facts above, it might seem an impossible task to accurately identify your days of fertility, especially if you have irregular cycles! But don’t worry – it’s easier than it sounds.
Identifying your fertile days is made simple when you learn something called the Fertility Awareness Method. Not only will you discover your best time to get pregnant each cycle, but you’ll also discover a wealth of information about your fertility health too!
The fertility awareness method is based on the observation of scientifically proven fertility signs that all women experience during their menstrual cycles. These fertility signs are recorded on a specially designed fertility chart, either on paper or in a digital format on your computer or device.
Once you learn how to correctly interpret this information, you’ll gain an intimate understanding of what’s happening with your fertility each menstrual cycle and you’ll know whether or not you’re fertile on any given day.
The Fast Track to Pregnancy™ program is designed to make learning fertility awareness easy. You can find out more about this comprehensive online program here.
What about ovulation predictor kits (OPKs) or fertility apps?
Many couples choose to use ovulation predictor kits (OPKs) or fertility apps to help them work out the best time to get pregnant.
Ovulation predictor kits are designed to test urine or saliva and they work by detecting the changes in certain hormone levels that occur just prior to ovulation. In contrast, fertility apps or ovulation calculators rely on the input of your menstrual cycle statistics (and sometimes your fertility signs).
Although these options can be useful if you’re trying to get pregnant, they are NOT fool proof and can have a number of pitfalls. To find out more, check out the following articles:
One final tip…
Contrary to popular belief, your day of PEAK fertility – the day that sex is most likely to result in pregnancy – is often NOT the day of ovulation. Research shows that peak fertility can occur as early as 3 days before ovulation day, with conception chances significantly reduced by the time the egg is actually released (and it’s interesting to note that ovulation predictor kits will only show positive within the 24 – 36 hours before ovulation occurs – often AFTER the day of peak fertility has passed!)
By learning the fertility awareness method however, you’ll be able to identify your day or days of peak fertility every cycle, regardless of when they occur.
Finding your days of peak fertility is covered in detail in Step 2 of the Fast Track to Pregnancy Program™.
The best time to get pregnant each menstrual cycle is during the fertile window – the days leading up to and ending on the day of ovulation. The length of this fertile window is typically just 3 days or less and its timing can vary significantly from woman to woman and from cycle to cycle.
Contrary to popular belief ovulation does not always occur on Day 14, ‘mid-cycle’ or 14 days prior to your next period and for many couples this is NOT the best time to get pregnant.
Learning to identify the days that are fertile for YOU, and having sex on these days, can dramatically improve your chances of conception and speed up the time it takes to get pregnant. And one of the best (and scientifically proven) ways to achieve this is to learn the fertility awareness method and begin charting your fertility.
If you’re interested in doing this, check out the Fast Track to Pregnancy™ Program for further information.
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